Prevention is better than cure. We’ve all heard it. You don’t have to be a doctor or in any way related to the healthcare profession to have gotten that message. You might even be sick of it by now. All the smoking cessation adverts or the constant media scar mongering.
Some of it is a bit overboard I’ll agree but having worker as a doctor for a few years now, I’ve seen my fair share of patients with conditions that were avoidable in some sense. I don’t just mean physical conditions and the obvious culprits such as obesity I’m also talking about mental health.
Whilst I haven’t suffered depression or a mental health condition myself it has alway been something in the back of my mind that I have been conscious of. Working long hours as a junior doctor, initially in a new area with no real social network of friend or family set up for myself, I was a prime target. I use to think looking from the outside it wouldn’t be surprising if I had a patient who was in my shoes who was depressed. Especially after those exhausting on call weeks!
That’s why I’ve tried to make an effort to notice how I was feeling and how different activities made me feel. I had seen patients with depression who were really suffering and whilst I also was fortunate enough to see some at the other end of the tunnel this wasn’t the case for everyone. I didn’t want to risk it.
Oprah once said your life’s constantly talking to you and when you don’t listen that whisper turns into a ton of bricks falling down around you.
They say it’s not wisdom until you actually implement it into your life and recently I listened to the whispers in my life and a made a few changes.
I took a big step back from social media.
Going with my prevention is better than cure, I started to be more conscious of how certain things made me felt and what role they played in my life. I looked at myself as both a consumer and a part of social media. The truth was I didn’t like what I saw.
For any time I would look on Instagram I would ask myself “what value is this adding to my life”. Looking at the super rich in their amazing clothes and holidays added very little value to mine. Then there were some account which one could group as “inspirational”. In fact there are some pretty great doctors out there making pretty big waves on social media from promoting healthy ways to eat to motiving people to work out more.
But again if I was really honest with myself, how was that beneficial to my life beyond the benefit they have already had? On balance most of the stuff I end up looking at was frivolous and whilst that’s ok at times, these apps are designed to be addictive and 5 minutes here and there soon adds up and that’s time that I wouldn’t choose to use in this way. I would just end up doing so!
Everyone is so happy to show everyone the highlight reel of their life. We all know no ones life is perfect but when you look at those perfectly captures “candid pictures” with Valencia and the perfect amount of brightness and contrast, we forget. Or at least I do. And that I think can be very damaging. Because we compare our reality to someones else perfected squares.
Facebook is the same. For every engagement picture there are triple the heartbreaks and breakups I’m sure. But we don’t hear about that.
And I’m in that group too. I don’t post the crap times of my life either but posting the best bits of my life makes me feel uncomfortable too. I’m not 100% sure why. I guess a part of my feel that it’s a bit dishonest putting one side of the story. Another is I don’t want the world knowing what I’m doing. I guess I don’t find Facebook useful at the moment. I’m not interested in keep up to date with everyone else’s life.
If you’re my friend I already know. We keep in touch in other ways.
Since deactivating my Facebook and getting Instagram off my phone I feel happier. I have noticed my concentration levels have increased and my time feels like my time now. Where I would show off about doing certain thing I don’t have to spend the time to think about which picture to use or which caption. I switch off.
Your mind and your attention are so precious and I don’t want to waste them on things that don’t serve that attention.
I still have my Instagram and my Facebook is deactivated for now. I’m not against social media but I am against wasting time and continuing with old behaviour just because “everyone does it”. I still check Instagram once a day but I’ve taken a backseat to my consumption and uploader status for a while and that’s suiting me just fine.
Whatever your opinion on social media, I hope thing made you think a little. You might love it and get so much out of it in which case carry on! But if you don’t and you don’t find it to be a good thing in your life then perhaps a little sabbatical or just what you need.
Until the next post,