I’m the kind of person who is naturally very reflective. To you it’s a walk to the shop and a rude person who doesn’t serve you quickly enough. To my it’s life teaching my about patience and a little reminder of what not to do.
I though I would share some thought that I’ve been having recently to the aim that it might stimulate some debate and may make you think a little.
“I love to travel”. “Wanderlust”. “I’ve got the travel bug”. If i had a pound, scrap that penny, for every time I’ve heard that recently.
Apparently, we’ve all been bitten by the same thing. We must have all eaten the same rotten fruit. Work pressures, failing relationships, debt, or maybe just the wish to see something new and learn about the world. It looks like we ALL suddenly want to travel. Everywhere. And all the time.
Now don’t get me wrong. The thing I said about wanting to see the world and everything, I buy that. I also want to see what people my age are doing half way around the world and learn from them. I want to go to the far reaches of the world just as much as the next gal.
But to my over reflective self, I also see something else going on. Procastination. “I don’t know what to do so I’ll travel”. That’s not to say that that isn’t a good use of someones time, because I really think it is, the world has many lessons to teach us all. But the bigger issue I have is how will this help you figure out that thing that you want to do? Or that decision you want to make. I’m all for taking some time out to think about things, but what I don’t agree with is wasting time.
Because time is precious. It’s why I can’t have something in my life I don’t think is good for me. I can’t do fake friends. I physically can’t tolerate it. My body shuts down. My mouth won’t open. I have nothing to say (and if you know me you know I don’t shut up and as my friend you have to tolerate me). Time is a GIFT. It will never come back. That thing you’re deciding on might not be possible in a few years. That career. That family you want. That move round the world. That visit to a family member. Whatever it is.
As one of my faviourite TED talks said “I’m not discounting 20 something exploration, but what I am discounting is 20 something exploration that’s not suppose to mean anything”.
If you read my last blog post, you already know that I’m quite an extreme person. I don’t like that TED talk I LOVE it. I come back to it time and time again. Life gets messy and that reminder can get lost. I need to remind myself first of all.
So I’m gonna just leave this post and that talk here. Think of it as life giving you a little reminder. Or you could just think of it as that Salma girl with one of her (maybe annoying) blog posts again. Whatever.
Either way, it’s here.
Have a great day.